Okay, this has been bothering me for a couple of days. If you have been following/friend on tsū (always welcome to follow/friend me: https://www.tsu.co/WhatImReading), you would notice that I went on a rant on sex does not equal romance. I don't know where we got this misconstrued idea that sex and romance are one in the same; because they aren't. By definition Sex is the instinct or attraction drawing one sex toward another, or its manifestation in life and conduct. So, the definition of sex has nothing about romance, and you can look at the synonyms, and still find nowhere about romance. Now the definition of Romance is a novel or other prose narrative depicting heroic or marvelous deeds pageantry, romantic exploits, etc., usually in a historical or imaginary setting. However, another definition is a romantic affair or experience; a love affair. I guess that could be where it all stems from. Yet, when you look at the synonyms nowhere will you find the word sex. At the same time you will find synonyms that could be interpreted into sex, and that would be a stretch we are looking.
Anyway, back to the whole idea that sex equals romance. I wonder if the idea goes back to when our mothers were giving "the talk", and we slowly morphed sex equals love and eventually worked our way to thinking sex equals romance. I have no clue. What I do know is romance is not sex and they can't be interchangeable. However, romance can lead to sex.
The bottom line here is we need loose the misconception of sex and romance is one in the same. No matter how much sex is in books, movies, TV shows, or whatever, will not make an automatic romance. Making sure others understand there is a difference between will help prevent facewall incidents from happening.
What do you think? Where do you think we get these misconceptions?